In Christ Alone

Sunday, September 5, 2010

What I did that was an annoying behavior to Bonny?

More than ten years ago in the late 90’s, Bonny and I attended a marriage enrichment course called “His Needs, Her Needs.” Each of us had a workbook “5 Steps to Romantic Love” where we worked through overcoming love busters and learning to meet each other’s needs. Recently I came across Bonny’s workbook while I was tidying our library and had a good time reading through some of his answers and recalled the good times that we had. His sense of humor lingers on in my memory and what he wrote made me laugh just like when he was with me.
Referring to the annoying behavior I had toward him, he wrote, “Her annoying behavior toward me is when she tells me not to eat too much or not to eat fatty food.” In answering to the question as to why this has caused him unhappiness, he wrote, “when she shows her displeasure of my eating habits and I have to sneak behind her back to eat—a few times.” He added further that “it was because of her concern for my ulcerative colitis and I know that she is right but I still feel annoyed when she tells me.” On the frequency and intensity of my annoying behavior, he wrote, “It increased since the first year of marriage but now it has gotten lesser and better primarily because I am working with her on my eating habits.
He was such a precious and wonderul man, a man full of humor and love, childlikeness and contentment. I am sure there is more laughters in heaven now that he is there. He does not need to control his eating habit too:-). Can't wait to see his smiling face again when my assignment here on earth is done.

1 comment:

  1. Dear Kim Lang, reading this brought me to tears laced with laughter...because I do remember him sneaking food he should not eat anymore of...in the kitchen when you would be gathered in the hall with the rest in our usual chatter after a good hearty meal...I wonder when i can remember Bonny fully with happiness...i still can't believe he went so suddenly...but like a beautiful candle flame gently going off when its wick had burn out..

    Bonny had to go for his new assignment...but it still does not make it any easier for us huh?...I wish I had your faith and strength.

    See you soon...lotsaluv :)

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